Sawiselnak

Sualselnak…
A hlawknak ruatin a naa tuar man asi
By Tom Pryor

http://www.icms.net/criticism.htm

Mi in lungto thawn an dennak hmangin in lungdawl hngetzet a dawl thiam tu cu mi thlawsuak asi.

A cancan cu sawiselnak hi baloon tuahnak company ih tthimte, balon vit pop tu vek asi tiah ka ruat ttheu; ruahnak ttha, tumtah ttha le sunmang hlawhtling thei lo dingin daltu tumpi vekin an lang theu. Asinan Norman Vincent Peale in a simmi hi ruat tlak zet asi; “Sawiselnak in in runsuak mi hnakin cawimawinak in in siatsuah mi kan tam sawn ding.”

Buuk aw tawn mi fakselnak le cawimawi nak cu mi zo khalin hnattuan le mimal nun hlawhtlinnak hrangah kan ttul hrimhrim mi an si.

Mi zokhal nikhatkhat ah sawisel faksel an si cio ding; hruaitu ttuan tikah, lamzin thar le ttha ah mipi fehpi tikah, zumnak sim suak tikah, dinhmun neih tikah, nun thuken ausuahpi tikah, thleng tul mi ausuahpi tikah, le lamzin dik lo ah mipi feh mi ausuah pi tikah, sawiselnak fakselnak a suak ringring ding.

A biktakin, dinhmun hmailam pan dingin hmalak tikah sawiselnak le sawisel tu an um ringring ding; hnattuan a tthat tikah, ttuan tthat lo tikah, ttuan lo tikah, sawisel tu an um ringring ding. Curuangah, sawiselnak ih ttobul, hramthawhnak theih a thupit tluk in lamzin parah an tlak tikah ziangtin hmaiton ding ti theih a thupi. An lo dennak lungto pawl kha anmah dennak ah na hmang ding maw, culole hram hngetkhoh zet lungdawl tthazet dawlnakah na hmang sawn ding?

Sawiselnak a phunphun

  1. Tthatnak hrang fakselnak (Constructive criticism)

Tthatnak hrang fakselnak cun mizia ttha, thazang thar a suahter ih thiltha thleng awknak thar suahter dingin phurnak a suahter sawn.


  1. Siatsuah dingin sawiselnak (Destructive Criticism)

Siatsuah dingin, a sezawng sawiselnak cu thinlung ttha lo thawn tuah mi asi tikah a ttobul dik lo ihsin a suak mi asi.” An lo sawisel tikah ziangruangah na dik lo timi thu an lo sim thei lo (an lo sim lo) asile an thinlung a dik lo tinak asi ih an tumtah mi cu tuahtthatnak hnakin siatsuah tum ruangah an lo sawiselnak asi.

Henry C. Link in hitin a rak sim dah, “Ral neih na duh asile, ‘na dik lo asi’ ti ah mi va ti aw. Himi hmanrua hi ziangtik lai khalah a dik ringring asi




  1. Theihsual dingin sawiselnak: Misleading Criticism

Voi tampi cu sawiselnak pawl hi theihnak tlaksamnak, thuhla theih famkim lo ruangah le thusoh hman nak ihsin a suak theu. Mi tampi cun thu an theih famkim lo mi an sim theu ih mi hrekkhat in an theih mi hnakih tam an sim tikah an simmi thei tu awl hruaisual tu ah an cang theu. Curuangah sawinak a suahtin te ziangvek ttonbul ihsin a suak ti theihfiang a ttha; an theih mi sung ihsin an sim maw, an theihmi hnakih tam an sim maw.

  1. Sawisel/fakselnak um lo: Absence of Criticism

Sawisel le faksel awknak a um lo tikah a ttha zet le duh um zet vek a bang ding nan kaihhruai awknak um lo, kiangkap um pawlin thil cang rero mi zianghman ah siar lo nak, lole kaihhruai awknak in sawisel le fakselnak um lo ding in ukbet awknak ruangah asi theu. Gallup Poll company in an hliakhlai (research) nak vek asile a miat/hlawk bik company pawl hi zarhktin an hnattuan tu pawl sawisel/fakselnak nei theu tu pawl an si tiah an hmusuak. Sawisel le faksel awknak um lo dingin kaihbet, ukbet awknak hmun ahcun hmasawnnak ding khal lamzin kham asi theu. Thawmvang a um lonak in pitlin le hlawhtlinnak hnakin mi a it tthat ter sawn.

  1. Dilmi fakselnak: (Requested Criticism)

“Keimah cu ka dik famkim asi” ti tu hruaitu le ‘tleng awk ding zianghman kan nei lo” ti ah a ruat tu pawlkom cu siatnak hrangah an timtuah cia asi. (The person who holds an attitude of "I'm perfect" or an organization with employees who feel "we don't need to change", are destined to fail). Steve Phillips in a rak sim theu mi cu, “Ka tuah mi hi ‘a ttha tuk’ tiah na ruat lo asile ziangruangah ti isim aw” (If you don't rate me as outstanding, tell me why?).”

Sawiselnak tawn mi pawl hi hmantlak, ngai pawimawh tlak an si maw ti theithei dingin a ttobul pawl zohfiah a ttha.

Sawiselnak ttobul pawl: (CAUSES OF CRITICISM)

  1. Rinlo tikah: (Lack of Trust)
    Tlinnak a thupit tluk in rin awknak khal a thupi ve. Rinlo tu pawl cun an theihfiang lomi cu an sawisel ding. Na tuah dingmi hnakih tam na tiamkam dah maw, lole na tiamkam mi hnakih mal na tuah dah maw? A lo sawisel tu pawl ih rinsan mi si dingin ziang na tuah thei mi a um? Rinsannak um dingin tikcu, ti thei mi, le hlawhtlinnak thuanthu ziktluak hmuh thei mi a um a tul.



  1. Theihnak tlasam: (Ignorance)



Field Marshall Bernard Montgomery in hitin a rak sim dah; “Bristish ralkap pawl lakah phunli an um: a) Tuak (Smart) na’in mize; b) Tuak na’in milaw; c) Mi-aa mi-zee; le d) Mi-aa -law. “Mi-aa-law” siar lo, a dang pawl kawmkhawm hmuahhmuah cu kaih-hruai an theih ih hnattuan pi khal an theih.” A lo sawisel tu pawl kha ziang pawl ah an tel ve ti thei aw.

  1. Iksiknak: (Jealousy)

Dinhmun ttha le canpual ttha na co tikah na siatnak duhtu sawisel tu an suak cupco ding. “The Millionaire Mind” timi cangan tu, Thomas Stanley, Ph.D., in hitin a rak sim dah, “Mi hlawhtling pawl cu an danglam; mipi dungtlun in an feh lo. Curuangah mipi lak ihsin na hlawhtlinnak a lo ruksak duhtu pawlin an lo sawisel ding.”


  1. Ttihnak: Fear
    Mi pakhat cu “ziang a ttih” timi parah hngat aw in “zovek milai asi” timi kan theithei. Ziang a cang, cang ding ti theihlonak lak ihsin sawisel tu mi tampi an suak ding. Mipi lak ihsin anmai duhnak a famkim lo ding ttihnak ruangah siseh an duhmi hloh an phan ruangah siseh an theih lonak ruangah sawiselnak tampi a suahter ding.

  2. Rualremnak: (Negotiation)

A cancan cu sawiselnak hi khatlam le khatlam rualremnak hrang ruat ruangah a suak theu. Voikhat cu CNN ih interview tuah ringring tu Larry King kha Donald Truph in a lau ter rori. Ziangah tile Donald in “Larry, pawi na ti lole dunglam ah malte zau in ka do deuh pei, na thaw a rim ase tuk?” ati. Cuticun an pahnih ten rualrem le nuam zetin, zoi kaa rim sia khalin midang hnaihnawk lo ten an to tlangih thu an rel thei.

A lo sawisel tu in rem awknak hrang ah sangka a ong maw?


  1. Milai mizia: (Human Nature)

A tlangpi thu in a tthalam hnakin a selam hi milai mizia in a ngai pawimawh sawn ttheu. Mi tampi cun an tuah mi le an simmi zuangruangah ziang duhsan in an sim in an tuah ti an ruah setset lo theu.

  1. Mi tamsawn duhdan a lal: (Majority Rules)

Mi tampi in mitamsawn duhdan a lal ti ruahsannak an thinlung tawdap ah a hngat awk ruangah mi tamsawn duhdan hmandan, le tidan thawn a bang aw lomi cangvaihnak le tuahnak pawl an hmuh tikah an sawisel theu.




  1. Politics:

Sawisel tu pawl cu khatlam ttang political party, lole khatlam ttang mi an si ahcun an sawiselnak cu zianghman belhcian dawl lo (facts um lo), ruahdan menmen tla si thei.

Democratic party pawl hrang ahcun Republican party pawl cu mi-aa (insane) an si ih Republican party pawl hrang ahcun Democratic Party member pawl cu mi-aa an si. Curuangah voi tampi cu sawisel nak pawl hi mimal nun lawngah si loin pehtlai mi, political party maw pawlkom dangah pehtlaihnak ruang sawn ah tla a cang thei.


  1. Thleng awknak: Change
    A dik lo mi si loin an duh lo zawng an sawisel ding. Mi tampi in “tleng awknak” “change” timi an duh lo. Thil/dinhmun pakaht thleng dingah thil pali ttul hrimhrim mi aum: a) a fiangzetin sunmang ttawm awk thei mi, b) thleng awk nak hrang sunglam tlinnak, c) lenglam ihsin thleng dingin nawr nak, d) a takin kekarpi theih dingmi kekar hmaisa bik ding.

  2. Midang hrang ruat: Concern for Others

Sawiselnak hi a cancan cu thiltha rahsuak dingin a cang theu. A cancan cu mi pakhatkhat in amai ruahnak le hmuhdan ahcun a ttha tuk mi a tuah rero lai ah midang hrang siatnak thlentu tla a rak si thei.




Sawiselnak ziangtin hmaiton ding: HOW TO DEAL WITH CRITICISM

  1. Tuar cuahco tu si loin ttuantu sawn si aw: Be active, not passive
    A hlawhtling mi mizia cu daitlang in to cuahco nak in si loin dodalnak lak ihsin tthanlen pi mi asi sawn. Thil umcia mi daithlang zetin tuah mi hnakin thilthar le tthasawn an suahpi tikah sawiselnak tamsawn a hring suak men thei.

  2. Thudik sim aw: Speak the truth

Prophet lem pawl hi thudik an sim lo tikah an ttongkam a nal zet theu. Thudik in a cancan cu mi a hliam theu ih mi tampi a tlan ter theu; asinan thudik sim ding cu a tik mi le tuah hrimhrim ding mi asi. Mi pakhat cu zovek a ral an si timi in na thei thei fawn. Mihrekkhat pawl cu ka ral, idodaltu si hai sehla ka duh mi an um.



  1. Cangan in sawiselnak dil aw: Invite written criticism

Ttongkam lawngin sawiselnak hi famkim lo mi tampi a um; ca rori in sawiselnak ngah thei dingin dil aw. Sawisel tu in kutnam rori in ca in a ngan ih a sawisel mi cu zoh thlak asi ding. Ca ngan in kut nam rori in sawisel ding an thei lo asile zianghman thu sirhsan sawisel nak ding an nei lo tinak asi ding.


  1. Sawiselnak ih rah diktak hawl aw: Look for grains of truth

Mi pathum, midangdang in an lo sawisel asile sawiselnak ihsin ziang asi ti zir ding a um tinak asi; dik lo piin sawiselnak asi hmanah sawiseltu pawl lungsungah ttihnak a um mi cu a fiang tinak asi. A cang thei asile sawisel tu pawl sut awla, ziangtin ka thleng aw thei ding, ziangvek ruahnak ttha an nei, ziang thiltha hmuh mi an nei, ziangvek ttihmi an nei?


  1. Thusik ihsin ruahnak peng: Sort feelings from facts

Sawiseltu pawlin voi tampi cu thudik ihsin an ruahnak hlapi, lole peng an nei theu. SI khal sehla, “Na ruahnak a dik lo asi” tiah sim ruangah an ruahnak an thleng cuang lo ding ti theihcia a tha. Ziangruangah an ruahnak a peng ih sawisenlnak an nei timi hliakhlai in theihfiang le theihter a thupi.


  1. Zohtthim ding: Look for role models

Sawiselnak ruangah zumnak le nun thuken cawhpawlh dah loin tumtah mi ah hmuisel ding zet ret ringrign in a feh thei tu si dingin zohtthimtlak neih a tha.


  1. Lungfim ten thleidan thiam aw: Use discernment
    Sawiselnak thleidan thiam atul. Tipithuamthum parah ti na leuh ihi Ngapi le ngacik pawlin an lo keu tikah ngacip pawl keu kah pawi ti aw hlah. Sawiselnak pawl in a ttobul pawl kha theih tum aw la.

  2. Ral vekin si loin, rualpi vekin let hawi aw: Respond as a friend, not a foe

Milai mizia cu sawiselnak cu hrial thei tawk hrial ding le tlansan ding a tum ringring. Asinan sawiselnak pawl cu hmaiton ih a hram laihsuak le ti rem a tha bik theu. Sawiselnak cu midang thawn a pehpar mi asile sawisel tu pawl ngai pawimawh mi tuanvo neitu hnen thlen dingin bawm hai aw.

  1. Hahdam zetin pehtlaih thiam aw: (Have a sense of humor)
    Hahdam zetin hnih phah in sawiselnak pawl lak thiam tikah zir tulmi zir in sawisel tu pawl thawn pehtlaihnak tuahtthatnak ding lamzin a ong aw thei.

  2. Sawiselnak cu faknak thawn kawp cih aw: Combine criticism with praise

An lo sawisel tikah an lo ngai pawimawh tinak asi. An lo ngai pawimawh lo ahcun an lo sawisel lo dingih an lo rel paih fawn lo ding. Midang in an tuah tthatmi pahra lakah an tuahsiat mi pahnih lawnglawng kha va sawisel rero hlah aw. AN tuah tthatmi pahra na lawmnak lakah an tuahsiatmi pahnih fakselnak na zep asile zozo hrang khalah ngainuam le hahdam zet asi ding.




Sawiselnak tawn tikah a sezawng lawnglawng in lak ding asi lo.



I believe there is a fundamental need for every person to know that someone cares if we are good or bad. I remember staying up all night finishing a research paper for a college class. I handed it in Monday and got it back Wednesday with only a little pencil check next to my name. Clearly the teacher never bothered to read it; he just gave me credit for doing it. How did I feel? I felt cheated. Why knock myself out if nobody cares? Criticism given, whether negative or positive, means somebody cares. Don't be discouraged by criticism. Instead be encouraged that you've gained someone's attention with your words or actions.



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